Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.”
If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
It’s interesting to look at the things we say we don’t have time for and realize that we really mean they’re just not that important to us.
You can extend this concept to almost anything, but it really resonates with me in the context of building success. Everyone wants to build an empire and be successful—they just don’t have time. Of course, following Laura Vanderkam’s advice, it’s easy to see that success isn’t a priority to most people. Time is just an excuse.
We have plenty of time.
If you’re putting your goals on the back burner because you’d rather watch TV all evening, you’re probably not cut out for success. You have to want it.
Here’s another way of thinking about it:
What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.
Wondering what your priorities are? Look at what you do every day. If you’re not happy about it, make a change.